The way we bond with our parents in the very first years of our lives, have a great impact on our ability to connect to others later on in life. The connection with our family members forms a very important base for how we feel and act many years later. Especially the parts of our parents that we reject, influence us as adults. Many patterns that are not serving us, that we try to get rid of, but somehow always seem to come back, are related to the ‘system’ we grew up in. 

Children can unconsciously take on destructive familial patterns such as guilt, anger, anxiety, depression, addiction and even physical illnesses, as a way of “belonging” to their families. From the unconditional love a child feels for his parent, a child will often sacrifice its own wellbeing in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of the parent. Very often keeping that pattern with him when growing up, even until long after the parents have died. 

Through systemic and family constellation work these hidden or unconscious dynamics and patterns can be brought to the surface. By bringing these underlying family bonds and forces into the light of our awareness, we can change our inner attitude towards ourselves, family members and the issues we are working with. By doing so we can allow ourselves to break free from these destructive patterns, in order to live a happier and healthier life in true connection with ourselves and others. 

“You don't have to understand the world. You just have to find your own way around in it." - Albert Einstein