The way we bond with our parents in the very first years of our lives, have a great impact on our ability to connect to others later on in life. The connection with our family members forms a very important base for how we feel and act many years later. Especially the parts of our parents that we reject, influence us as adults. Many patterns that are not serving us, that we try to get rid of, but somehow always seem to come back, are related to the ‘system’ we grew up in.
Children can unconsciously take on destructive familial patterns such as guilt, anger, anxiety, depression, addiction and even physical illnesses, as a way of “belonging” to their families. From the unconditional love a child feels for his parent, a child will often sacrifice its own wellbeing in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of the parent. Very often keeping that pattern with him when growing up, even until long after the parents have died.
Through systemic and family constellation work these hidden or unconscious dynamics and patterns can be brought to the surface. By bringing these underlying family bonds and forces into the light of our awareness, we can change our inner attitude towards ourselves, family members and the issues we are working with. By doing so we can allow ourselves to break free from these destructive patterns, in order to live a happier and healthier life in true connection with ourselves and others.
I regularly offer family constellation work in group sessions. In a group session patterns and underlying dynamics can become clear, by using other persons to represent the relevant members and issues in your family system. This can help you to see clearly how you relate to your family members and issues.
Group sessions are planned for:
27 November 2021
5 March 2022 (one day retreat)
Days run from 10.00 - 17.00, with a 1 hour lunch break.
Systemic work can also be done in a private session where objects represent the system you would like to gain more insight in. In this coaching session I help you to understand your own role within a certain system, and give you some tools to change your part in underlying, destructive patterns.
I offer private sessions in Amsterdam West.
First session : 90 minutes for 95 euro
Successive sessions: 60-75 minutes for 65 euro